Not Everything Good Is From God: Knowing When to Let Go

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We thought we were giving Tabitha the perfect 50th birthday gift: her dream French bulldog, black on black, healthy, well-bred, and instantly lovable. What we did not expect was how quickly “a good thing” could start reshaping our home. After a few months of puppy blues, training stress, hired dog walkers, disrupted routines, and a family dynamic that kept drifting apart, we faced a decision that felt brutal: return Jeffrey to the breeder.

We talk through what that moment actually looked like in our marriage, including the gentle conversation that opened the door, the fast pivot once we knew what needed to happen, and the real grief that followed. There were tears and second guessing, but we also saw something powerful on the other side: closeness came back, peace came back, and the priorities that matter most rose back to the top.

Along the way, we share a practical framework for Christian decision-making and discernment you can apply to anything: friendships, schedules, purchases, jobs, hobbies, and even dreams. We lean on Scripture about seasons (Ecclesiastes 3:1), wisdom over mere permission (1 Corinthians 10:23), and considering how our choices affect others (Philippians 2:4). You will hear our “fruit inspection” test and the six steps we use to choose long-term gain over short-term pain.

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