Change Fatigue: When the Answered Prayer Feels Heavy | Melissa Miller

What happens when you finally get the thing you prayed for, and it turns out to be one of the hardest seasons of your life? In this episode of the Love Life Sober Podcast, Christy Osborne is joined by author Melissa Miller to explore change fatigue, overwhelm, and why living in God's answered prayers can sometimes feel harder than expected.

This week, Christy talks with Melissa about her beautiful new book, But I Prayed For This: What to Do When Living in God’s Yes Is Harder Than You Expected.

Melissa had prayed for two things: a big job move across the country and a bigger family through adoption. God said yes to both, and soon she and her husband were fostering a sibling set in Florida. On the outside, everything looked like an answered prayer. On the inside, she was overwhelmed, not sleeping, having panic attacks, and waking up every morning wondering, “Whose life is this?”

Melissa found the name for what she was going through: change fatigue. The term usually describes what happens to employees when an organization goes through a lot of change at once, but Melissa realized it’s just as real in our personal lives. In this conversation, Christy and Melissa talk about why good changes can still feel so heavy and why so many Christian women feel too guilty to admit they’re struggling. They also explore how God grows us in the dark, like a seed that’s surviving underground before it ever breaks the surface.

If you’ve stepped into an alcohol-free life and thought, “Wait, this isn’t what I expected,” this conversation is going to feel like a deep exhale.

What You’ll Learn

• What change fatigue is, and why it can hit hardest after an answered prayer.

• Why two things can be true: you can be grateful and overwhelmed at the same time.

• How big life changes, sobriety included, can bring up old trauma and memories you haven’t dealt with.

• Why survival mode isn’t failure, and what a surviving seed teaches us about growth.

• How to give yourself grace when you’re not the woman you expected to be in this season.

• Where our “perfect mom, perfect woman” expectations come from, and how comparison makes them worse.

• What simple, honest breath prayers can sound like when you’re in survival mode.

• Why choosing to keep showing up means you’re strong, not stuck.

If You’ve Ever Thought…

“I prayed for this, so why am I struggling so much?”

“I thought I’d be further along by now.”

“Everyone else seems to handle change so easily. What’s wrong with me?”

“I chose sobriety, so why does it feel like I’m stuck?”

...this episode is for you.

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But I Prayed For This: What to Do When Living in God’s Yes Is Harder Than You Expected is available wherever books are sold.

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