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· 25 min· Season 4, episode 145

Not Everyone You Call a Narcissist Is One

Encountering You

About this episode

"Narcissist" might be one of the most overused words online right now, thrown at exes, bosses, and parents alike. But narcissism isn't a light switch; it's a spectrum, from healthy self-regard all the way to a clinical diagnosis. In this episode, we unpack what narcissism actually means, why the loud, grandiose stereotype isn't the whole picture, and how to protect yourself in a relationship with someone high in narcissistic traits without turning pop psychology into a diagnosis you hand out to everyone who's hurt you.

In This Episode:

  • The difference between healthy narcissism, narcissistic traits, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
  • What NPD actually involves clinically and why it's more than just "arrogant"
  • Grandiose (overt) vs. vulnerable (covert) narcissism, and why covert often goes unnoticed
  • A gentle look at where narcissistic traits tend to come from
  • How narcissistic traits show up in romantic relationships, families, and workplaces
  • Common myths about narcissism, debunked
  • How to set boundaries and protect yourself with or without a diagnosis

Key Takeaway

You don't need a diagnosis to set a boundary. Focus on the impact someone's behavior has on you, not on whether you can correctly label them and get support for yourself if you're navigating a relationship with someone high in narcissistic traits.

A Note Before You Listen

This episode is educational, not diagnostic. Please don't use it to diagnose a specific person in your life (or yourself) — only a qualified clinician can do that.

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