552-I Thought My Wife Needed to Change - Then God Changed Me

He thought his wife was the problem. A lawnmower ride changed everything.

Zack was frustrated. Confused. Married 22 years with four kids, no big crisis, no infidelity, no blowups. Just a slow, quiet drift that left him on his mower wondering, "Does my wife really love me?"

She kept saying, "I don't feel emotionally connected to you." He had no idea what that even meant. And she couldn't really put words to it either. So it just sat there. This unnamed thing between them.

He started searching. Podcasts. Resources. Most weren't Christian-based. Then he asked AI for the best Christian marriage shows and DYM came up top three. He started listening on the mower and something hit him: "How does this lady know what men want and what men are thinking? She's in my brain."

So naturally, he started sending episodes to Kim. Translation: "Hopefully this lady will fix you."

He'll tell you that himself. He signed up for the program thinking it would change his wife. But God had a very different plan.

Zack went from frustrated and confused to a man who knows how to love his wife well, lead spiritually, and stay connected. He's staying in the graduate program because he found real brotherhood and he doesn't want to go back to who he was.

Zach's Christian marriage transformation began when he realized the biggest change his marriage needed might need to start with him.

If you're on your mower right now (or some other place), feeling that disconnect and wondering if things can actually change: they can. But it starts with you. delightyourmarriage.com/cc

At DYM we coach husbands and wives to transform their marriage even if only one does the work, but we encourage the husbands to go first.

Blessings,

Belah

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PPPS - Here is what (another) recent Coaching Graduate had to say: [before coaching], "Feeling disconnected/lonely at times. Things were good in general but it felt like if we were on autopilot. There was emotional pain/hurt, feeling dissatisfied even though there is and was a lot to be grateful for." [after coaching] "I'm more grateful, closer connected to God, less defensive and more tender with my lovely wife. On one hand the personal growth in becoming the man God wants me to be (as a husband and father). On the other hand the various delights that I gifted my wife (big and small, like parasailing in Italy, a night away together to celebrate our 12-year anniversary, lots of family activities). My wife expressing her gratitude."