The Power And Necessity Of Humility In Marriage

Why does humility matter so much in marriage? Aaron and Jennifer Smith contrast pride, which God hates and which comes before disgrace, with humility: placing others above yourself and recognizing your true position before God. Pride is our natural state and the root of most fights ("I'm right and you're wrong"), and it keeps couples from reconciliation, repentance, and apology. Humility, by contrast, creates safety, unity, and a powerful example. They talk about apologizing without "buts," the difference between humility and humiliation, and practical ways to walk humbly: quickly acknowledging hurt, being quick to forgive, praying together, agreeing with God rather than fighting to be right, and humbling yourself before the Lord (Micah 6:8, 1 Peter 5:6).